“Keep your mouth shut, especially when you know you’re right about something.” – Anonymous
I heard this quote recently at an Al-Anon meeting and wrote it down immediately. Even though I’m right a great deal of the time, I still think this quote will come in handy.
It isn’t always easy for an exceptionally reasonable, wise person like me to stay silent when the folks I love are obviously screwing things up– spending compulsive, eating too many GMO’s and staying in dead-end relationships. It’s especially hard when I can see it and know they could use the help of a twelve-step program.
After all, I was once a hopeless mess when it came to relationships, and although I’m much healthier than I used to be, I’ve decided to keep my opinions to myself. At least for the next twenty-four hours.
I will say nothing when the people I love do things like hide in denial, or refuse to admit their relationship is falling apart, or acknowledge they have a problem with overspending. Even better, I’ll keep quiet when these people make the kind of mistakes I’m sure will ruin their lives. No, I will be silent, even though I know I’m right – what else is new? – because most people don’t want to be told they’re wrong.
I’ve asked my Higher Power for the courage to help me keep my advice to myself because, quite frankly, I’m exposed to so many people on a daily basis who could use my help. Most people have no clue about how selfish and annoying they are, and I can count on one hand the number of friends I have that are in great relationships.
Yes, I have a lot to say, but I’ve decided to to keep my mouth shut, even when I’m right, especially today. So instead of focusing on how much work my loved one’s need to do, I’m going to let it go. I’ve decided I’m going to have a great day. More than likely it’ll be a very quiet day, but it’s going to be fantastic, nonetheless.